Quotes From Gray Thomas's Sacred Search Book
Lying about what you want out of marriage going in because you’re afraid you’ll lose the relationship if you are honest is one of the worst kinds of fraud you could ever commit. --Gary L. Thomas
The truth is, we want to be known; we truly do. But we’re afraid. If you see the real me, will you run away? Am I even worth being known? Will the real me bore you? Scare you? Repulse you? And so we hide. --Gary L. Thomas
Here’s what I want you to ask yourself as you embark on your search for a vibrant sole mate: what will your ideal marriage look like? Will the two of you spend your lives “sucking the marrow out of life,” or working hard to establish a business and/or ministry (and often spending evenings and weekends recovering)? Will you seek to build a child-centered family, focusing on the kids, or have you always thought you’d like to do a lot of foreign travel or maybe just adopt one or two children? Will you have separate hobbies, or would you prefer to do everything together? --Gary Thomas
In case you’ve never thought about it, a woman’s body changes much more rapidly than her character does. --Gary L. Thomas
I’m going to ask you to do something that may feel even more painful: when you get close to becoming engaged, put any public announcement on delay for a few weeks and spend several sessions talking through all these issues again with someone else present. --Gary L. Thomas
Walking toward the music” isn’t a bad philosophy of life. Doors might seem closed, the evening might seem prematurely over, but if you can catch a glimpse of nightlife or hear the sound of music in the distance, why not walk toward it and see what you find? --Gary L. Thomas
Discerning someone’s character, true values, and suitability for marriage is hard work. It takes time, counsel, and a healthy dose of objective self-doubt and skepticism. Identifying someone as “God’s chosen” or Plato’s “soul mate” is comparatively easy. You “feel” it in your gut. It seems right. You can’t imagine anyone else. You must have found the one! --Gary L. Thomas
Marriage is a good thing, and being intentional about your pursuit of it is commendable, not shameful. --Gary L. Thomas
The Bible clearly says we shouldn’t feel forced to marry or feel prohibited from marrying; this is one of those life decisions God leaves up to us. --Gary L. Thomas
for now I’m just throwing it out there and asking you to at least consider that romantic attraction, as wonderful and as emotionally intoxicating as it can be, can actually lead you astray as much as it can help you. I’m not talking it down; “connecting” with someone on that level is a wonderful thing. Enjoy it, revel in it, even write a song about it if you want, but don’t bet your life on it. --Gary L. Thomas
love is not an emotion; it’s a policy and a commitment that we choose to keep in the harshest of circumstances. It’s something that can be learned and that we can grow in. Biblical love is not based on the worthiness of the person being loved—none of us deserves Christ’s sacrifice—but on the worthiness of the One who calls us to love: “We love because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19). --Gary L. Thomas
It’s far better to move somewhere on a trial basis as a single person to try out the option than to get married first and then see if you like it. --Gary L. Thomas
A therapist friend of mine has worked with a number of different women who were at one point in their lives centerfolds for popular men’s magazines. These women often had difficulty achieving sexual satisfaction. Though they seemed experienced in sexuality per se, they had almost no understanding of God-ordained sexual intimacy within marriage. As a result, there was a lot of spiritual and psychological healing that had to be accomplished in order for them to enter into a mutually satisfying relationship. --Gary L. Thomas
It’s better to admit your weaknesses and make provision for them than to pretend you’re something you’re not and suffer the consequences when your true character surfaces. Caring about not hurting girls or tempting boys you’ve not yet dated trains you toward compassion. And compassion will serve you very well in marriage. --Gary L. Thomas
The sad reality is that when we get married for trivial reasons, we will seek divorce for trivial reasons. We need something much more lasting on which to base a lifelong commitment—one that even has eternal implications. --Gary L. Thomas
Even if you’re a giver who likes to give, it’s exhausting being married to a taker. A taker will suck the life out of you in many ways, and in one sense undercut your ability to minister to others. --Gary L. Thomas
women, if you simply follow your feelings, you are more likely to fall in love with a guy who will thrill you for twelve to eighteen months as a boyfriend and then frustrate you for five to six decades as a husband. Guys, on the other hand, are more inclined to experience romantic love with women they are attracted to physically, yet physical appearance is the thing most likely to change in a person’s life. --Gary L. Thomas
Racism, prejudice, dishonesty, laziness, gluttony, materialism, selfishness—all these grow more unpleasant the longer you have to accommodate them. If you’re already tired of having to excuse your partner of one (or certainly several) of these, you’re going to have a tough time when it comes to marital satisfaction twenty years from now. --Gary L. Thomas
Proverbs takes a supremely pragmatic approach: “A wife of noble character who can find?” (31:10). This verse assumes that we are involved in a serious pursuit, actively engaging our minds to make a wise choice. And the top thing a young man should consider is this: “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised” (Prov. 31:30). --Gary L. Thomas
I ache for the day when people make such wise marital choices that they can pray through where to live to make the most significant impact for Christ instead of praying that they could merely be able to exist in the same house without yelling and fighting. --Gary L. Thomas
If you haven’t talked about it to your partner, you have no business talking about it to someone else, unless it’s a particularly touchy issue and you’re seeking godly wisdom as to how to share it or broach the topic. --Gary L. Thomas
Wisdom says we should try to make a relationship work not because we have strong feelings but because it’s a good match. --Gary L. Thomas
The Bible views us as recipients of God’s perfect love, already charged with an important life mission (seeking first the kingdom of God), and thus the decision to marry, though crucial, won’t define us. Nor will who we marry define us. --Gary L. Thomas
Rejecting the notion that God creates one person just for us doesn’t discount the reality that God can lead us toward someone and help us make a wise choice when we seek Him in prayer. --Gary L. Thomas
Christian life is a journey toward love, growing in love, expanding in our ability to love, surrendering our hearts to love, increasingly becoming a person who is motivated by love. --Gary L. Thomas
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The truth is, we want to be known; we truly do. But we’re afraid. If you see the real me, will you run away? Am I even worth being known? Will the real me bore you? Scare you? Repulse you? And so we hide. --Gary L. Thomas
Here’s what I want you to ask yourself as you embark on your search for a vibrant sole mate: what will your ideal marriage look like? Will the two of you spend your lives “sucking the marrow out of life,” or working hard to establish a business and/or ministry (and often spending evenings and weekends recovering)? Will you seek to build a child-centered family, focusing on the kids, or have you always thought you’d like to do a lot of foreign travel or maybe just adopt one or two children? Will you have separate hobbies, or would you prefer to do everything together? --Gary Thomas
In case you’ve never thought about it, a woman’s body changes much more rapidly than her character does. --Gary L. Thomas
I’m going to ask you to do something that may feel even more painful: when you get close to becoming engaged, put any public announcement on delay for a few weeks and spend several sessions talking through all these issues again with someone else present. --Gary L. Thomas
Walking toward the music” isn’t a bad philosophy of life. Doors might seem closed, the evening might seem prematurely over, but if you can catch a glimpse of nightlife or hear the sound of music in the distance, why not walk toward it and see what you find? --Gary L. Thomas
Discerning someone’s character, true values, and suitability for marriage is hard work. It takes time, counsel, and a healthy dose of objective self-doubt and skepticism. Identifying someone as “God’s chosen” or Plato’s “soul mate” is comparatively easy. You “feel” it in your gut. It seems right. You can’t imagine anyone else. You must have found the one! --Gary L. Thomas
Marriage is a good thing, and being intentional about your pursuit of it is commendable, not shameful. --Gary L. Thomas
The Bible clearly says we shouldn’t feel forced to marry or feel prohibited from marrying; this is one of those life decisions God leaves up to us. --Gary L. Thomas
for now I’m just throwing it out there and asking you to at least consider that romantic attraction, as wonderful and as emotionally intoxicating as it can be, can actually lead you astray as much as it can help you. I’m not talking it down; “connecting” with someone on that level is a wonderful thing. Enjoy it, revel in it, even write a song about it if you want, but don’t bet your life on it. --Gary L. Thomas
love is not an emotion; it’s a policy and a commitment that we choose to keep in the harshest of circumstances. It’s something that can be learned and that we can grow in. Biblical love is not based on the worthiness of the person being loved—none of us deserves Christ’s sacrifice—but on the worthiness of the One who calls us to love: “We love because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19). --Gary L. Thomas
It’s far better to move somewhere on a trial basis as a single person to try out the option than to get married first and then see if you like it. --Gary L. Thomas
A therapist friend of mine has worked with a number of different women who were at one point in their lives centerfolds for popular men’s magazines. These women often had difficulty achieving sexual satisfaction. Though they seemed experienced in sexuality per se, they had almost no understanding of God-ordained sexual intimacy within marriage. As a result, there was a lot of spiritual and psychological healing that had to be accomplished in order for them to enter into a mutually satisfying relationship. --Gary L. Thomas
It’s better to admit your weaknesses and make provision for them than to pretend you’re something you’re not and suffer the consequences when your true character surfaces. Caring about not hurting girls or tempting boys you’ve not yet dated trains you toward compassion. And compassion will serve you very well in marriage. --Gary L. Thomas
The sad reality is that when we get married for trivial reasons, we will seek divorce for trivial reasons. We need something much more lasting on which to base a lifelong commitment—one that even has eternal implications. --Gary L. Thomas
Even if you’re a giver who likes to give, it’s exhausting being married to a taker. A taker will suck the life out of you in many ways, and in one sense undercut your ability to minister to others. --Gary L. Thomas
women, if you simply follow your feelings, you are more likely to fall in love with a guy who will thrill you for twelve to eighteen months as a boyfriend and then frustrate you for five to six decades as a husband. Guys, on the other hand, are more inclined to experience romantic love with women they are attracted to physically, yet physical appearance is the thing most likely to change in a person’s life. --Gary L. Thomas
Racism, prejudice, dishonesty, laziness, gluttony, materialism, selfishness—all these grow more unpleasant the longer you have to accommodate them. If you’re already tired of having to excuse your partner of one (or certainly several) of these, you’re going to have a tough time when it comes to marital satisfaction twenty years from now. --Gary L. Thomas
Proverbs takes a supremely pragmatic approach: “A wife of noble character who can find?” (31:10). This verse assumes that we are involved in a serious pursuit, actively engaging our minds to make a wise choice. And the top thing a young man should consider is this: “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised” (Prov. 31:30). --Gary L. Thomas
I ache for the day when people make such wise marital choices that they can pray through where to live to make the most significant impact for Christ instead of praying that they could merely be able to exist in the same house without yelling and fighting. --Gary L. Thomas
If you haven’t talked about it to your partner, you have no business talking about it to someone else, unless it’s a particularly touchy issue and you’re seeking godly wisdom as to how to share it or broach the topic. --Gary L. Thomas
Wisdom says we should try to make a relationship work not because we have strong feelings but because it’s a good match. --Gary L. Thomas
The Bible views us as recipients of God’s perfect love, already charged with an important life mission (seeking first the kingdom of God), and thus the decision to marry, though crucial, won’t define us. Nor will who we marry define us. --Gary L. Thomas
Rejecting the notion that God creates one person just for us doesn’t discount the reality that God can lead us toward someone and help us make a wise choice when we seek Him in prayer. --Gary L. Thomas
Christian life is a journey toward love, growing in love, expanding in our ability to love, surrendering our hearts to love, increasingly becoming a person who is motivated by love. --Gary L. Thomas
TruthOrator's Weekend Love, Relationship and Mind Empowerment Tips
Happy Weekend My Kings and Queens
I Appreciate You
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1. Master of Ceremony
2. Event Planning
3. Creative writing/ Script Editing
4. Motivational speaking/ Mentorship
5. Children Educator
K.O.P Bashorun.
'Your Life Orator'
CEO/Founder
BBM Channel: C00254A49
Tel: 08056673096, 07065621203 or 08094722387
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