5 SECRETS TO HAPPINESS by Apara Adewale

I was in a commercial bus one night on my home when a lady and her little baby girl at about 6-7yrs of age hopped in.

Immediately she sat, her baby girl started singing (I believe the songs she heard all day), dancing and was really shouting. She was so happy and it was all over her face. She then started jumping not caring about her mother who carried her on her back, her mum then got angry and angrier at her daughter’s shouting and jumping but the girl was never concerned and never looked into her mother’s face. She was so happy and it was all over her face. Been excited over the little girl’s happiness, I decided to do a quick survey on every other face in that bus and… trust me everyone was having a frowned face asides the little girl and I…#wink,

One very thing that you can hardly keep to yourself is happiness. Happiness is an emotion, that state of mind that ends up been obvious on one’s face. When one is happy, extremely happy, his countenance says it all and such a person extends such happiness to others either consciously or subconsciously.

The Sad People

Research says, an average man lives most of his life (more than 50yrs) been sad. Why been sad? Is happiness a season? Are we really in control of been happy or do the things that happen determine our happiness? Do the negative sides of life determine man’s state of happiness? Questions I ask myself.

According to the sage Jim Rohn in one of his brilliant talks, he stated that happiness is a study. As it’s principled that if you wish to be wealthy, study well and same principle applies to happiness, if you wish to be happy, study happiness. He later explained that happiness is an act, a practice. Study and practice make you sophisticated, rich in happiness. You design happiness. “Study and practice is required before you can acquire,” wrote Apara Adewale. No matter what situation life throws at you, no matter hard life pushes you, with a sincere and open state of mind, you can live a happy life with these well-structured secrets.

THE TOP SECRETS

1. Accept yourself the way you are –

“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of who you are,” wrote Marilyn Monroe. Fact remains that we’re all unique in our own different way. But today, “many die as copies,” said Les Brown. Accept yourself for who you are. Change for no reason but be always opened for an improved and better you, not because the old you is bad but because there’s always room for improvement and the old you can always improve. Study the luminaries (those who have been there, done that, and succeeded) for who they are and not to become them. You can always do that same thing and even better, but in your own unique and special way.

You see, someone’s opinion or definition of you does not have to become your reality. Appreciate everything about you and every action of yours because the moment you don’t, nobody does. The fact that the real you failed at some point in time is not enough reason to make someone’s opinion of you your reality. Moreover, every successful man has stories of their failures to tell. Know and understand that there’s no such quality as being more of yourself, because you become priceless and happy seeing yourself peculiar and different from others.

2. Engage yourself in what you’re passionate about –

“It’s amazing how disconnected we become to the things that brought us the most joy in favor of what’s practical,” said Rob Levit, an Annapolis, Md.-based creativity expert, speaker and business consultant. What is your passion? Like success, life’s a journey not a destination. Its obvious people run life’s race forgetting about happiness but just after results like salary at the end of every month thereby satisfying others when they themselves end up not being satisfied nor happy. Below are few questions that could help with discovering your passion;
What can I do using my natural talents and abilities?

What do I do best with least effort?

What could I wake up at night to do without been forced?

What can I do for 6-7 hours forgetting to eat?

Which of all human needs touches my heart the most?

What kind of assistance or help do people ask me for mostly?

In what area do people show me the greatest regard/respect/accolade?

Happiness is a state of mind. We’ve got to get connected in every aspect to what we do for happiness to be brought forth.

3. Always fight yourself to forgive –

It’s only in a supernatural movie we see extraordinary things been done, like going back in time. In reality, the deeds are already done, and you can revert. So, the most logical thing to do is think about moving forward and getting involved into other better and productive issues. Another thing is learning how to accept fate (it’s uncontrollable) and deny defeat (it reminds you that the game isn’t over).

You can only control yourself and the decisions you take (what happens next). With these in mind, moving on with life seems easy. Life is time, spend those quality times doing and thinking of something great with positive result.

The best revenge ever is coming back successful, stronger and better than you were. Letting go of the hurt and bad moments gives you an opportunity to hope for better things to come, remain optimistic and stay happy.

4. Never forget every good moment life brought your way –

Keep them in your memory as every good time fights and conquers every bad time. Every good moment gives one reasons to smile and be happy for a better and improved tomorrow when the bad times come. One beautiful thing about the unforgotten good moments is that they help avoid the avoidable memory of bad moments and deal with the unavoidable memory of bad moments. Life is like a coin or a roller coaster, whichever, sometimes you are up, and sometimes you are down. Sometimes things go well and sometimes they don’t. But never forget that in the fat time, you put it in your pocket and in the lean time, you put it in your heart.

5. Make others happy –

Check out on others, how life’s been treating them, how they’ve been coping. Crack jokes, tickle them and make them happy. Give them reasons to live, fight, live and hope. Help them to stand strong reminding them that even when life pushes them to the ground, they should always fall on their back because if they can look up, they can rise up above that so called limit. It’s simply called “the never giving up spirit” Encourage and make them realize that losing is far different from been defeated. Giving up is the real defeat, the permanent defeat.

Once you share and instill happiness, there’s always every tendency of you being happy.

BIOGRAPHY…

Apara Adewale is a GenY change catalyst born in the early 90s. He is a life coach and runs Accurate Insights, a publishing and consulting firm.

He’s a billionaire in the making, an entrepreneur, a motivational speaker, a problem solver a business magnate, a philanthropist and the author of the book “Money Making Manual”.
Adewale is known for his popular mantra which states, “life is too short, if it’s worth it, do it and do it well”.

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