TruthOrator's Blog

Where are you today in life? Are you where you want to be? Are you happy, sad or indifferent? Where you are is a direct result of the choices you have made up to this point in your life. At the time, some choices might have seemed inconsequential, while others were major life choices. But in the end, all of these choices form together to create the person you are today and the life you live. If you start being more aware of your choices, you can change your life. Do The Same Thing Or Try Something New? There I was, standing in fairway on the fifth hole at a local golf course. I was about 125 yards away from the green. In front of the green was a pond that stretched along the left side and around the back. I had two choices: I could “lay up”, meaning I could intentionally hit it short so that I would have an easier shot (and greater chance of landing on the green). I could go for it and aim for the middle of the green and risk losing my ball in the water. A little backgr...

1. The phone numbers of people that never, ever call you or text you first, and often don’t even respond when you text them. 2. Mean or uncomfortable exchanges with people — either in your text or internet history — that you occasionally go over and re-read because they make you feel angry and terrible all over again. 3. Subscriptions to online stores that you can’t afford, and which send you tons of emails and texts about the sales you should not be spending money on. 4. Bitterness over the things that your friends or coworkers have, that you might not be able to afford or have time for. 5. Expectations about having “the perfect” significant other, or someone who is going to make you feel better about yourself/fix your problems in a way you’re not able to do on your own. 6. Facebook friendships with exes that you have no interest in talking to again, and only keep around so you can occasionally stalk their new significant other. 7. Facebo...

Have spoken a lot about beliefs and how to change them to make your life better. There are certain beliefs that a lot of people believe and I think it’s time to address these. We are initially given beliefs from our parents, teachers, peers, TV and media. When we are young we think adults know more than us so we generally trust in what they say. However as we get older we form our own beliefs about the world. However some of the residual beliefs from our childhood can remain. Sometimes they have remained without us knowing about them. Here are some beliefs that may be residual, see if you recognise any of them and change them. 1. If you fail at something you are a failure This is perpetuated at school and throughout our days of turning into an adult. We are encouraged to win win win at all costs. If I fail at something, and I have many times, I try again, and again, and again until I get it right. If you believe that “if you fail at something you are a failure” then...

I am fine. No, that was an understatement. Actually I am feeling phenomenal good. Every day I can decide on how to spend my time, completely free without restrictions. The water I’m drinking is extraordinary clean and even more important free of germs, bacteria and pathogens. Also, don’t have to worry where to get my food for the next day. My civil rights are being protected by a state that allows me to express my opinion (freedom of speech) without having to fear prosecution. Our children are rising up without war and famines and have the chance to get an excellent education. Are you aware of the beauty of your live? Have you noticed something at this point? I, you and all the other people that read these lines have a hundred times easier, safer and better life than millions of other people from third world countries will ever be able to experience. But are we aware of these facts? Not really, instead of being grateful most of us don’t even realize how amazing our liv...

? This article is all about making the best of life and especially about the fine art of making the most out of any situation you find yourself in. There are so many human beings living on this planet, it never ceases to amaze me . I think humanity has exceeded the seven billion mark in 2011, which means there are seven billion individuals, from all kinds of different cultural backgrounds with very diverse professions, biographies, wishes, dreams but also burdens and privileges, living on earth right now. And yet, there are some who somehow seem to mange to make the most out of their lives, no matter the situation they find themselves in. I’m talking about the people who never cease to stand up again, no matter what life throws at them. On the other hand, there are vast amounts of people, who are not happy with their live at all. Some are even deeply depressed about it, despite the fact that they have everything they ever needed in order to be happy in life. I’m not necess...

Anger creeps up on you when you least expect it to.  Maybe it’s something someone says, or your mom telling you that you can’t have an extended curfew that night. But whatever gets you angry, have you ever noticed it’s pretty hard to calm down? Everyone gets angry.  It’s a natural emotion.  It’s ok to feel anger.  However what you do with your anger is what defines your character.  We’ve all heard moms yelling at their kids, girlfriends yelling at their boyfriends, and kids yelling at their brother or sister. Most people have yelled at someone in their life at least once. Take a moment to think back to the last time you yelled at someone.  Take a minute to think about what was going on that made you react that way.  How did you feel right after you yelled?  How did you feel 10 minutes after you yelled?  If asked, most people regret yelling at someone they care about.  What did yelling accomplish any...

Emotional Intelligence explains why it is important to understand your emotions and those of others. This will helps you to recognise and understand your own emotions, and explains why they are sometimes so strong. It offers some practical ideas about how you can manage your own emotions so that you can use and harness them, but are not governed entirely by them. What are Emotions? Emotions are feelings. To start to understand your emotions, you need to ask yourself two questions: How do I feel? How do I know? But others also have emotions. At the same time as being aware of your own feelings, you also need to be aware of those of others. You also need to ask: How do others feel, and how do I know? There are several ways that we can tell how others are feeling, but particularly by observing what they say, and how they behave, including their body language . Research suggests that more than 80% of communication is non-verbal, meaning that it comes from body language and facial...

Do you often think «I am a victim of life» and you are experiencing bitterness, confusion and uncertainty? Managing your life is the best response to the fear of risk and wrong choices. “Manage Your Life” means: The redefinition of your life path Moving from the position of the looser to the position of the winner. Overcoming the suspensions of life Winning the difficulties and successfully adapting to new conditions Meeting your desires and living your life fully. There are many strategies to follow in order to manage your life. Even when faced with undefeatable obstacles there is always a way to get control of your life, to get your life in your own hands. Typically, five reasons may prevent you for making a change in your life: The lack of self-worth, self-esteem and self-confidence Not understanding the meaning of life. The absence or lack of clarity in personal goals or the complete absence of personal goals The imaginary fears of failure Being a...

Maybe you don’t have any trouble with your thoughts, but I do. Thoughts pop into my mind without my permission faster than a mosquito bites my skin on a sweltering summer afternoon. And, equally without my permission. Descartes, father of modern philosophy, pointed to both the distinguishing characteristic of human beings and to the biggest curse of human beings when he made his famous statement, “I think. Therefore, I am.” The fact that you and I can think, reflect on the past, imagine the future, even to be conscious of our own consciousness is what distinguishes humans from all other animals. The fact that you and I can think, reflect and so often regret the past, imagine and so often fear the future, even to be unconscious of our own capacity to be conscious is the biggest curse humans live with and so try to escape from almost continually. In other words, “Thoughts,” as Buddhist monk Matthieu Ricard, “can be our best friends and our worst enemies.” I would highl...

“I know but one freedom and that is the freedom of the mind.” ~Antoine de Saint-Exupery Our mind is a funny thing. On the one hand, it’s awesome. But on the other, it can pulverize us more quickly and ruthlessly than anything else. Our mind is inherently scared. That’s its job: to be cautious; to keep us alive, to have us cross roads safely, and not get eaten by a lion. But left unchecked, it can become paralyzed with fear and meaner than a cornered crocodile. And it’s incredibly bossy. The tendency of the mind to want to control is so strong and so habitual that we often don’t realize the myriad of times it tries to push our inner wisdom and natural sense of ease and love aside. The bad news is there is no book or course that will change the nature of our mind; the good news—we don’t have to. The problem isn’t our mind, but how we use it. We feel anxious, fearful, sad, or resentful when we give our mind too much power, when we follow its dopey ideas against our bett...

Between the so-called money experts, your family members, and your friends , you’ve probably endured your share of outdated financial advice and plain old media hype. One person says penny stocks are H-O-T, while others insist they’re an absolute outrage. Your neighborhood real estate agent says the area is a buyer’s market, while the local news tells the story of a bubble that’s about to burst. It can be hard to know whose advice to trust. But if you cut through the noise, you’ll find that there are some tried and true methods for managing money that can benefit just about everyone. This timeless advice won’t always be trendy or newsworthy, but it can work wonders for your finances nonetheless. No-Regrets Financial Moves That Are Always in Style If you’re tired of trying to sort out the good advice from the bad and don’t know where to start, consider these financial moves that could benefit almost anyone: Pay off high-interest debt. Where home loans, most student loan...

Unless you’re winning, most of life will seem hideously unfair to you. The truth is, life is just playing by different rules. The real rules are there. They actually make sense. But they’re a bit more complicated, and a lot less comfortable, which is why most people never manage to learn them. Let’s try. Rule #1: Life is a competition That business you work for? Someone’s trying to kill it. That job you like? Someone would love to replace you with a computer program. That girlfriend / boyfriend / high-paying job / Nobel Prize that you want? So does somebody else. We’re all in competition, although we prefer not to realise it. Most achievements are only notable relative to others. You swam more miles, or can dance better, or got more Facebook Likes than the average. Well done. It’s a painful thing to believe, of course, which is why we’re constantly assuring each other the opposite. “Just do your best”, we hear. “You’re only in competition with yourself”. The funny th...