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The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations. This is especially true when it comes to our relationships and interactions with others. --Melchor Lim  Looking for perfection in a person brings too much expectations. When your expectations are not met, too many disappointments come. Learn to appreciate a person's imperfections. In them, you'll find perfection.  The problem with fairy tales is that they set a girl up for disappointment. In real life, the Prince goes off with the wrong Princess.  Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. Relationships must be chosen wisely. It's better to be alone than to be in bad company. There's no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you're ready, not when you're lonely.  It's not important to have all the best things in the world to be happy. Find happiness ...

Dear loved one, A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door. SON: “Daddy, may I ask you a question?” DAD: “Yeah sure, what is it?” replied the man. SON: “Daddy, how much do you make an hour?” DAD: “That’s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?” the man said angrily. SON: “I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?” DAD: “If you must know, I make $100 an hour.” SON: “Oh,” the little boy replied, with his head down. SON: “Daddy, may I please borrow $50?” The father was furious, “If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room. The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door. The man had calmed down, and started to think: Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $50 and he really didn’t ask for money very often. The man went to the door of t...

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. --H. Jackson Brown Jr. Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them. --Jodi Picoult You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It wont happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life. --Joel Osteen   When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way. --Paulo Coelho It was one thing to...

I look into her eyes I see nothing but hope and courage I imagine who she could be But she is a creation by God called WOMAN I see one every one second I see more than sixty every one minute I see thousands every one hour I see millions every twenty four hours And I see uncountable every year But where do I see them? Some I see in my wildest imagination Some I see in my dreams Some I see on the Air While some I see physically and arranged around by the creator But this wonderfully created woman I see her everyday of my life She is the best I ever had She is the most beautiful I ever see She is the best among her kinds No other woman can be compare to her Because she is a noble, an epitome of character and a woman of virtue And she is no other woman than my mother, my first love. -----K.O.P Bashorun

The man who will use his skill and constructive imagination to see how much he can give for a dollar, instead of how little he can give for a dollar, is bound to succeed. - Henry Ford  Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?  The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself. - Anna Quindlen.  One of the most courageous things you can do is identify yourself, know who you are, what you believe in and where you want to go. - Sheila Murray Bethel.  People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within. - El...

 “If you don’t have your own skin in the game, you will never have accountability… Once you have your own money on the table, you are just more careful. So if you are going to start your own business, put your own money down.” – Ugandan Alpesh Patel “The journey is forever. Do not ever let yourself feel like you have arrived, because if you do someone else will come and run right past you. You always have to keep going because you haven’t reached the mountain top yet.” – Kevin Ashley  “Businesses that are spoilt with too much capital make the wrong decisions… Constraints are the most wonderful things in business, because constraints allow you to be innovative and come up with different solutions.” – Michael Jordaan “I have come to learn to be patient and not to give up too quickly. It takes patience and persistence to bring a new and innovative product and ways of doing things to a community. There are early adopters who immediately embrace the product and ther...

When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another. – Helen Keller.  I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. – Maya Angelou.  It is only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on Earth and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it were the only one we had. - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross.  When you forgive, you heal your own anger and hurt and are able to let love lead again. It’s like spring cleaning for your heart. – Marci Shimoff.  Forget about the fast lane. If you really want to fly, just harness your power to your passion. -Oprah.  Your own words are the bricks and mortar of the dreams you want to realize. Your words are the greatest power you have. The words you...

When you're down to nothing, God is up to something. The faithful see the invisible, believe the incredible & then receive the impossible. Success isn't something given, it's something earned. So go out there, work hard, and make your dreams come true! Struggles are required in order to survive in life, because in order to stand up, you have to know what falling down is like. Never be afraid to tread the path alone.  Know which is your path and follow it wherever it may lead you; do not feel you have to follow in someone else's footsteps. - Eileen Caddy You may think you've got a long way to go, but sometimes you need to look back at how far you've already come. Remember the past, plan for the future, but live for today, because yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come. Stop running away from your problems because that only increases the distance from the solution. Make it right today, tomorrow is too late. Always be looking forward, and ...

Everyday when I woke up I see nothing more than the trouble called the World I see people who have been used and abused by the world And they are also looking for who to use and abuse I want something from the world But there is nothing the world could offer me Instead of the world offering me somthing The world have taken everything I have with me I have nothing left on me again I was told that naked I came into this world And naked I will go out of this world to wherever I came from But I am not even ready to go now But here I am naked already I see nothing but problems, pains, auguish, discomfort and so on in this world People becoming problems to each other People becoming their own problem My eyes can no longer shed blood The Ocean can no longer accumulate my tears Because my body can't hold heat ni more I know that I want something But that something nobody can give me Which makes me remember The words of my father to me The only person you have in this...

It is not possible for an organization to grow big, on the ideas of one person. Even if that person is a brilliant entrepreneur. Once, you as the "founding" entrepreneur have managed to start a business, and it is growing. One of your most important tasks, if you want the business to continue to grow, even for decades or more, and certainly when you have retired, or even died; you must institutionalize a culture of entrepreneurship. And this starts with the ability to identify and recruit entrepreneurs....and also hold on to them. Let me tell you a secret: The most important people in any organization, are the entrepreneurs, also known as "intra preneurs". Some of them are senior executives, some are senior managers, some are top engineers, some are supervisors, some are factory workers, some even sweepers! "Oh, how I wish all the people that ever work for me, were all entrepreneurs!" Take a company, like Toyota, GE, or IBM. The founders are long go...

The idea of spending “forever” with someone is almost impossible to wrap our heads around. We never know where life will take us — how high the highs will be or how low the lows. This is why picking a partner is one of the most important things we’ll ever do, they can accentuate or alleviate the tense or happy moments, making them better or much worse. I polled 25 guys to see what moment made them realize they had to have a girl forever. They are captivating. I avoided commitment for a long time because I was scared it would get boring if I stuck with one girl. What changed was one day I thought about my girlfriend and never sleeping with another new girl again and instead of panicking like I’d always done before, I realized I was okay with that. It actually made me happy to think about just being with her. -Colin, 32 They are there for you when you need support. I had a sudden health condition where I had to spend a week in the hospital. It was out of nowhere. It was incredibly...

I learned that life is not about the mistakes that you make, but about the number of times you tried to correct them One day you will wake up and there wont be any more time to do the things you've always wanted. Do it now.! when people still think you're the best when they see you at your worst, they are the ones worth keeping You have to accept whatever comes and the only thing is that you meet it with the best you have to give. - Eleanor Roosevelt The more you take responsibility for your past and present, the more you are able to create the future you seek. Everything in your life is a reflection of a choice you have made. If you want a different result, make a different choice. Laugh. Dance in the rain. Cherish the memories. Ignore the pain, love and learn, forget and forgive because you only have one life to live. You can never be truly happy if you constantly hold on to things that make you sad. A closed mind is a symptom of a closed heart, and a closed h...

Self-doubt is a business barrier. In what areas of your business do you doubt your abilities? In-action is a business barrier. In what areas of your business do you need an accountability partner to keep you focused? We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit. -Aristotle Negative self-talk can inhibit your business's growth. Are you blocking your business's progress because of what you're thinking and saying? Attitude is everything. Did you know that how you manage your money (money mindset) could impact the level of income you make? Attitude is everything. What's your reaction when dealing with a business challenge? Do you look for possibilities? Self doubt is a business barrier? What do you need to tell yourself that will enable you to believe in your strengths and talents. Perfectionism is a business barrier. Aim for action and completion to maintain momentum towards your goals. Being surrounded by constant criticis...

Life was pretty great after thirty years of marriage. We had married young and raised each other. Pete was 49 years old and I was 48. It had been a blessed, loving, happy marriage, raising three children and having two grandchildren already. It took work and compromise, and being in the company of each other came so naturally. There was no strain, no feeling the need to entertain, just living and loving, sometimes struggling with finances or problems, but always coming together with support for each other. The last two of our three children had gotten married that summer. They had their spouses and their lives now. Pete had said, "Well, we've gone full circle, Baby. It's back to you and me, right where we started. We're not gonna' work so hard. We're gonna' travel. We'll ride Amtrak out to Los Angeles to the Gene Autry Museum and do a little sightseeing on the way. Yep, We've gone full circle, back to you and me". That was the beginning of ...

This fire that we call Loving is too strong for human minds. But just right for human souls. --Aberjhani Most people are slow to champion love because they fear the transformation it brings into their lives. And make no mistake about it: love does take over and transform the schemes and operations of our egos in a very mighty way. --Aberjhani Your heart is not a guinea pig that anyone can experiment with. You deserve a love that will last long past Valentine's Day. --Buky Ojelabi What to do in St Valentine’s Day? Love and love and love! What to do in other days? Love and love and love! Because love is the atmosphere you can breathe in and do all your other jobs! Wherever there is love there is oxygen to breathe, there is life! --Mehmet Murat ildan What’s Valentine’s Day about except the desperate search to find someone to spend Valentine’s Day with? It just shows that love has become a marketing campaign, like everything else. You buy into it and lose everything. -David Le...

Let going. Move forward. Aim High. Plan a takeoff. Don't just sit on the runway and hope someone will come along and push the airplane. It simply won't happen. Change your attitude and gain some altitude. Believe me, you'll love it up here. --Donald Trump Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake & help us see we are worth so much more than we're settling for. --Mandy Hale A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her existence. --Mandy Hale You are essentially who you create yourself to be and all that occurs in your life is the result of your own making. --Stephen Richards Dance. Smile. Giggle. Marvel. TRUST. HOPE. LOVE. WISH. BELIEVE. Most of all, enjoy every moment of the journey, and appreciate where you are at this moment instead of always focusing on how far you have to go. --Mandy Hale You’ll learn, as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to...

You can dance in the storm. Don't wait for the rain to be over before because it might take too long. You can can do it now. Wherever you are, right now, you can start, right now; this very moment. -Israelmore Ayivor Success is not obtained overnight. It comes in installments; you get a little bit today, a little bit tomorrow until the whole package is given out. The day you procrastinate, you lose that day's success. -Israelmore Ayivor No. Don't give up hope just yet. It's the last thing to go. When you have lost hope, you have lost everything. And when you think all is lost, when all is dire and bleak, there is always hope. -Pittacus Lore. The world’s greatest achievers have been those who have always stayed focussed on their goals and have been consistent in their efforts. -Roopleen People will walk in and walk out of your life, but the one whose footstep made a long lasting impression is the one you should never allow to walk out. -Michael Bassey Johnson Y...

"Oh, how I wish all God's people were entrepreneurs!" .... A young man asked me once, "when did you first become an entrepreneur?" And was quite surprised by my reply: "I have been an entrepreneur, for as long as I can remember." "Were you an entrepreneur, when you worked for someone else?" He asked. "Yes, I was. Even when I was employed by someone else, I worked for them, as an entrepreneur." I explained. "Is that why you went off to start, your own business?" "No; not really." There was a pause: "Sir, I don't understand? I always thought entrepreneurs, start their own businesses?" "Not necessarily. Some of the best entrepreneurs in history, and even today, do not start their own businesses. Its not necessary." Then I added: "If my employers, at the time, had recognized me as entrepreneur and deployed me, in such a way as to allow me to express myself as an entrepreneur...

This evening I received a very odd, and rather unexpected text from a woman in my church. It was unexpected because I rarely have contact with said woman, and secondly, because of the nature of said text. We do not know each other like that. Like what, you ask. See here: Maleaka, I have a question about your blog. I am here with [two other high ranking women in the church mentioned by name]. We heard you wrote a blog called “Should Christian Men Hit it From the Back?” Is that true? We’re looking for it… Ewurade. This my blog. This my church! I never thought the day would come when there would be a coupling between the two. Even though the topic sounds like one I might I have written, I ensured my enquirer -let’s call her Romona- that I am/was not the responsible party. Romona apologized and ceased all electronic communication. I, however, was ill at ease. I asked my husband what may have prompted Romona’s question. Why would she be asking ME? I went down a series of theories as M...

A positive state of mind is not merely good for you, it benefits everyone with whom you come into contact, literally changing the world. Train your mind and heart to see the good in everything. There is always something to be grateful for. Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you’re proud to live. The secret of happiness is to count your blessings while others are adding up their troubles. Instead of spending time makes excuses for why you aren't at your goal, spend that time making a plan to get there. The story of your life has many chapters. One bad chapter does not mean it’s the end of the book. Don't worry so much about little setbacks. Just stay focused on the bigger picture. Instead of spending time makes excuses for why you aren’t at your goal, spend that time making a plan to get there. If you believe it will work out , you'll see opportunities. If you believe it won't you will see obstacles. You hav...

Most people give up just when they’re about to achieve success. They quit on the one yard line. They give up at the last minute of the game one foot from a winning touchdown," --Ross Perot "I think if you look at people, whether in business or government, who haven’t had any moral compass, who’ve just changed to say whatever they thought the popular thing was, in the end they’re losers," ---Michael Bloomberg "In motivating people, you’ve got to engage their minds and their hearts. I motivate people, I hope, by example…and perhaps by excitement, by having productive ideas to make others feel involved," -Rupert Murdoch "Anyone who has lost track of time when using a computer knows the propensity to dream, the urge to make dreams come true and the tendency to miss lunch," Tim Berners-Lee "It’s through curiosity and looking at opportunities in new ways that we’ve always mapped our path at Dell. There’s always an opportunity to make a differen...

The secret to staying at the top, WHEN you get there. I just turned 54 years "young", recently, as many of you know. 29 years of those 54 years have been spent setting up, and running businesses. I have seen people succeed, and I have seen people fail. I have seen men and women ascend to extraordinary heights: Some stayed there, others failed. I have seen men and women of great wealth and fame, and yet some were despised, to their death. I have also lived in tumultuous times, and seen many extraordinary things. In a recent "Afterthought", to one of my postings; I shared with you, something Pastor AR Bernard, said about gifts, talents and abilities: "Your gifts, talents, and abilities can take you to great heights, but only character can sustain you there." Many of you out there are extraordinarily talented and gifted, and you have amazing abilities and skills. There is no doubt, that you are destined to succeed. You are going to scale heights, th...

Everybody has a home team: It’s the people you call when you get a flat tire or when something terrible happens. It’s the people who, near or far, know everything that’s wrong with you and love you anyways. These are the ones who tell you their secrets, who get themselves a glass of water without asking when they’re at your house. These are the people who cry when you cry. These are your people, your middle-of-the-night, no-matter-what people. Shauna Niequist It is a grave injustice to a child or adult to insist that they stop crying. One can comfort a person who is crying which enables him to relax and makes further crying unnecessary; but to humiliate a crying child is to increase his pain, and augment his rigidity. We stop other people from crying because we cannot stand the sounds and movements of their bodies. It threatens our own rigidity. It induces similar feelings in ourselves which we dare not express and it evokes a resonance in our own bodies which we resist. --Alexander...

I'm not in search of sanctity, sacredness, purity; these things are found after this life, not in this life; but in this life I search to be completely human: to feel, to give, to take, to laugh, to get lost, to be found, to dance, to love and to lust, to be so human. --C. JoyBell C. Love is the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth... Love is as love does. Love is an act of will -- namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love. --M. Scott Peck Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment...'dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love -- which is to transform us.' Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them...

One of the most common questions I'm asked when I give lectures is how the brain differentiates love and lust.  It's an interesting question -- and as most of us have confused love and lust a time or two (or sixteen), it's an important one.  After all, how many of us have been burned by confusing love and lust?  It's all so confusing.  How can we really know whether what we have with a partner is something truly lasting or just some kind of residual sex haze?  I think most of us believe that we would make better relationship decisions if there were a hard and fast way to tell the difference. During the course of my research for Dirty Minds: How Our Brains Influence Love, Sex and Relationships, I asked Helen Fisher, an biological anthropologist at Rutgers University, about this.  Her pioneering work into the neural substrates of love identified three distinct yet overlapping systems for love:  the hypothalamus for lust, the ventral tegmental area (VTA...

Let us make one point, that we meet each other with a smile, when it is difficult to smile. Smile at each other, make time for each other in your family. --Mother Teresa My mother told me that life isn't always about pleasing yourself and that sometimes you have to do things for the sole benefit of another human being. Good works is giving to the poor and the helpless, but divine works is showing them their worth to the One who matters. --Criss Jami I must be willing to give whatever it takes to do good to others. This requires that I be willing to give until it hurts. Otherwise, there is no true love in me, and I bring injustice, not peace, to those around me. --Mother Teresa Love only grows by sharing. You can only have more for yourself by giving it away to others. --Brian Tracy Give freely to the world these gifts of love and compassion. Do not concern yourself with how much you receive in return, just know in your heart it will be returned. --Steve Maraboli Speak t...

Listen to the mustn'ts, child. Listen to the don'ts. Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me... Anything can happen, child. Anything can be. ---Shel Silverstein You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one. I hope someday you'll join us. And the world will live as one. --John Lennon When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too. --Paulo Coelho I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge. That myth is more potent than history. That dreams are more powerful than facts. That hope always triumphs over experience. That laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death. ---Robert Fulghum It's really a wonder that I haven't dropped all my ideals, because they seem so absurd and impossible to carry out. Yet I keep them, because in spite ...

Leave people to their opinions and judgements, they cannot harm you, it is their understanding that is faulty, not yours. If you are aware of your weaknesses and are constantly learning, your potential is virtually limitless. Success is a mindset. If you want to be successful, start thinking of yourself as a success. The successful man will profit from his mistakes and try again in a different way. - Dale Carnegie Surround yourself with positive people who will support you when it rains, not just when it shines. Be happy not because everything is good, but because you can see the good side of everything. There is no goal in thoughts. The more you overthink, the more it draws you into thoughts. Stop overthinking, just begin. Believe it can be done.  When you believe something can be done, really believe, your mind will find the ways to do it.  Believing there is a solution paves the way to a solution. - Dr. David Schwartz Love is a choice, an action. ...

There are a number of things that nearly all men try to avoid at all costs: chick flicks, drinking out of glasses (seriously, what’s with slurping the orange juice right out of the carton?), and making a woman cry. The latter generally leads men to avoid being straightforward with women, leaving the ladies in quite the “What the heck is he really thinking?” bind. In his newest book, 7 Things He’ll Never Tell You…But You Need to Know, noted psychologist, author and radio personality Dr. Kevin Leman explains what single men really want — and why they often avoid sharing their true feelings with their girlfriends. If you feel as though there’s something your partner is keeping from you, read some of the truths that Dr. Leman says many men avoid sharing with the women in their lives — and why you need to respond to them before your relationship takes a turn for the worse. 1. He doesn’t have friends he shares and communicates with regularly, like you do “Women are relational creatures by...