5 THINGS YOU DON’T DISCLOSE TO A NEW PROSPECT

When you meet a new person and you start getting up close and personal, there is the tendency to get so familiar that you are tempted to empty the good, bad and ugly things that has happened to you from the day you were born. Sometimes, this can backfire especially if you give too much information too soon to the people involved. You need to measure people’s ability to handle some information at certain times. Too much too soon can ruin a potentially good relationship.

This also doesn’t mean that you totally hide important things they should know from them; it just means that you should be very tactical in your approach when revealing some sensitive issues. What exactly are those dreaded details that can spoil a promising relationship?

1.THE HEALTH DEFICIENCIES IN YOUR FAMILY:
    If you start dating someone, you don’t begin to tell them all the health history or deficiencies in your family or you would scare them away. dont tell a new prospectIf you have a mental history or a genetic disorder in your family, now is not the time to spill the beans and let them think you are from an ailing family. This is something that you need to let the person get more familiar with you after seeing your good sides before letting them in on such issues leaving them to make the decision of staying with you to weather the storm or take a walk for the good of everyone.

2.YOUR FINANCIAL HISTORY: Whether your finances are fantastic or awful, you don’t share such things when you are just getting to know each other. Give it some time before you tell people if you earn six figures a month or you earn three figures. dont tell a new prospectSuch things can cause a whole of outcomes that you didn’t bargain for in the beginning. If the person knows that you are rich, they might start thinking of how to milk you dry and leech on you for marriage because of your finances. On the other hand, if they knew that you are struggling, they might think you would be a burden even when it’s just a temporary phase and you are such a hard worker. You need to let people get to know you well enough before telling them about your financial history.

3. YOUR LOVE FOR YOUR EX: Not everyone would get over their ex before entering into another relationship, but you don’t need to let the new person see how you were/are hung up about them. I know someone who always call a new prospect her ex’s name all the time. dont tell a new prospectShe always apologizes but of course, the guy left her immediately, just because he couldn’t stand it at all. So, if you know you haven’t gotten over your ex, you can avoid staying away from a new relationship. However, if you can’t avoid getting into one, you need to consciously make sure it doesn’t interfere with something new. Make sure you talk less about your ex and please stop complaining about how bad they treated you and all because that could show that you are still bitter and people would automatically avoid you like a plague.

4. YOUR HORRIBLE LIFE: I know you may be going through a consistent tough time but it’s not always advisable to just talk about that all the time with a new date. When the person sees that your life is always full of drama and horrible tales, they would most likely take a walk. I know you want to be honest with your new friend and you also want them to be your rock if possible, but you need to give that some more time before expecting such from them. Make sure you try to project the good part of your life to other people so that they would know that they do not always have to put out the fire in your life all the time.

5. YOUR OBSESSION WITH MARRIAGE: Some people are very obsessed with marriage and it is very obvious in all they do. Most people around want to get married but they don’t want to marry someone who wants to drag them to the altar. They want to be sure that they carefully considered and chose the person that they get married to. Do not start telling people how you don’t want time wasters and how all you are about is marriage and nothing short. This comes off as being desperate to some people and they might just scamper off even when they really want to get married. Just take it easy and enjoy the relationship and watch it progress before you can begin to drop some subtle hints so that the other person gets the gist.

Written by Lara Kudayisi - Emerald,  the Match Making Mistress.