TruthOrator's Blog

Isn’t it sad how much time we spend putting ourselves down? If we had a nickel for every time we felt inferior, stupid, unattractive, or unworthy, most of us would be millionaires. We land on this Earth full of exuberance and wonder. All we need is a little food, a little comfort, and a clean bottom. But if we are deprived of those things, or if later on we are told we don’t measure up in some way, we learn to feel “less than.” With enough negative reinforcement from others and ourselves, we become trained to see only our flaws and failures. Everything else fades into the background or has just a fleeting positive impact on our self-esteem. If we’ve become trained to feel bad about ourselves, is it possible to retrain ourselves to feel good? Can we unlearn old beliefs and refocus our attention to see our own beauty and worthiness? Yes, yes, yes! It is not only possible, it’s imperative for our mental and physical health. Our well-being and happiness hinge on our ability to ha...

Take pride in your work, is one advice I often give if you want to see your career soar in the corporate world. Many people work for the sake of working. It’s a means to get a pay check at the end of the month and there is nothing more to it. What can you do to change the attitude? How can you take pride in what you do? Try these steps. 1. Your Name Is On It Remember, whatever you do, no matter how small it is, has your signature on it. Even if you do not physically sign on it. The work passes through your desk, your station, your assembly line? Your name is on it. Unless you do not care about your reputation, then fine. But if you do, that is one great reason why you should take pride in your work. You Build a Reputation For Good Work The more good work you do, the better your reputation will be in the company. If you have an impeccable record of good work, who do you think the boss will remember first when it is time for increment and promotion? 2. Each Of Us Have A Rol...

We spend billions each year on our appearance. Gym memberships, dieting programs that may or may not work, new clothes and more. Don’t get me wrong, we should care how we look. But, what do our marriages look like? More importantly, where does our marital health rank on the list of To-Do’s? Instead of our bodies and physical appearance being top priorities, what if we put that focus on our marriages instead? The hardest part of parenting, that no one seems to want to warn you about, is the strain children have on your marriage. Children can come between you and your spouse. For us, it’s quite literal. I can’t seem to hug my wife without my 4-year-old butting in between us to make a “sandwich.” As the years go by, the children naturally become our focus, making it easy to lose sight of each other. We don’t take the time or energy necessary to stay connected. But, this trend can be stopped if you give your marriage a “check up.” I believe there are seven words that, if applied to o...

Growing up I was a thoughtful and happy kid—carefree, easy going, not afraid to make mistakes and take on challenges. Just before I turned 13, my parents moved our family halfway across the world where we knew no one. I adjusted well, made friends, and felt content and successful in my pursuit of whatever I decided was worth pursuing. I was strong and confident. I worked hard, laughed easily and often, and felt as if I had the good life all figured out. Then shortly after I turned twenty-five a severe depressive episode hit me like a ton of bricks. Looking back, I can see how it came about, how several traumatic events stacked upon themselves until I finally collapsed under their weight, but at the time I felt annihilated, ploughed over, and destroyed virtually overnight. I spent the next nine months steeped in profound physical, emotional, and mental anguish. The shame was the worst part. Despite years of evidence to the contrary, when I couldn’t get myself off the couch f...

Goals are an important part of it, but so are personal and professional relations, passions and desires. For almost everyone, living a complete life is an ongoing process – every day we take steps or perform tasks that help us achieve the goals and desires we have set forth in our life. It’s very easy to live life – to go through the motions – without living fulfilled. Far too many of us are getting up every day and we don’t have a passion or purpose in what we do.  We’ve lost track of our life goals and are not sure how to get back on the path towards living a fulfilled life. So how do we get back on track in our lives? Or if we already are on track, what are some of the tips that can help keep us on track? I’ve compiled a list of 5 areas that you can focus on that can help you achieve living a fulfilled and complete life. Turn Your Desires and Wants into Goals We all have desires and wants in our life. For some of us it can be a desire to be able to retire early, for o...

“Don’t wait for people to be friendly. Show them how.” ~Unknown The other night I called an old friend I hadn’t talked to in a while. As we caught up, shared stories, and laughed over private jokes that would sound ridiculous had the phone been tapped, I wondered why I let so much time go by since I’d last given her a call. We don’t live close to each other, so grabbing a drink or hitting up a yoga class isn’t an option. But really connecting with her, sharing pieces of my life  and receiving the pieces she wants to give, doesn’t require specific geography. We can be great friends to each other, despite the distance, if we choose to make the effort. If we remember to make the time, we can have those types of meaningful, fulfilling conversations that make us feel seen, understood, appreciated, and supported. Then I started to think about all the times when I’ve gotten busy and lost touch with friends who live right down the street—times when I got caught up in everything goi...

If you’re often left with too much month at the end of your money, it’s time to reduce your spending and start saving. Just a little money every month. Because, believe it or not, it's good for your health too. Take a look at how. 1. It’s less stressful.via GiphyKnowing that you’re one paycheck away from financial disaster is extremely stressful, and this stress can be hard to live with. Over time, it can lead to all sorts of health conditions like anxiety, depression, insomnia, and even heart problems. 2. It makes you feel a little saner. When you’ve saved money, you feel like you have a better grip on things and that feeling of control brings you one step closer to sanity. 3. It makes you happier. Admit it, knowing that you have money makes you happy. Doesn’t it? While saving money isn’t fun in itself, having money when you need it is definitely a great feeling. 4. It helps you shed those extra pounds. Being a cheapskate can help you live a healthier lifestyle. It’...