TruthOrator's Blog

Trust is a fragile thing. You’ve probably heard that before. You’ve also probably heard trust is earned, not given. Or trust is everything. Or maybe even trust is like an eraser; it gets smaller with every mistake. Regardless, the idea of trust is the most basic, yet essential part of every single relationship. It is the spine, the backbone of what it means to love another person.     When you trust someone, you allow yourself to be vulnerable. You let that person in. You give that person your heart, your entire soul, and believe, despite all of the crap in the world, that they will take care of it.      You watch that person walk away and you have confidence that they are respectable and won’t go throwing themselves around or flirting behind your back or opening themselves to any other human besides you. But the thing about trust, is that it relies so much on the unknown. It is a testament of faith, that despite the odds and no matter what the world says, you b...

1. Appreciate her for little things A woman’s job is never done. From sun up to sun down, most women have a ton of things to do along with keeping their man happy in a relationship. It makes a woman feel important and special when you take time to recognize all that she does. A simple,”Thank you for cooking dinner, I really appreciate it”, can put a smile on her face. No woman wants to be in a relationship that she feels invisible in. Recognizing her efforts is the very fuel that can inspire her to keep doing more for you. 2. Let her feel secure  She deserves safety and security.Whether you are providing a roof over her head or protection over her heart, every woman needs her safe haven. When a man can give a woman the reassurance that he will do anything to protect her heart, her well being and her spirit, it brings a certain level of peace over her. When a woman feels safe, she feels free. You can’t expect her to continue being your angel if you don’t create a heaven like environ...

Just to state the obvious, relationships can be very rewarding but they are not easy. They are journeys that may bring challenges in the beginning, the middle, and the end. I want to share in this post a few of the difficulties and things to keep in mind, as couples navigate these stages. Beginnings To start a relationship we may need to  overcome fears and doubts , old and new, that get in the way. Taking the risk of being open and vulnerable can sometimes be really difficult. Do we feel safe enough to let the other in? Do we allow ourselves to love and to be loved? Should we risk expressing our feelings despite the fear –or maybe the anticipation- of rejection and pain? Many of the people that I have worked with in my practice have struggled with these questions. Some believe that their emotions are too big, they are too needy, or their baggage is too complicated, and wonder if they will be too much. Others, on the other hand, feel like there is something wrong with them and wond...

"That which does not kill us makes us stronger." Nietzsche, history's greatest angsty teenage boy, blithely asserted this whopper of an untruth in his 1888 book  Twilight of the Idols . My first thought in response to the quote is simply: "No it doesn't," or "Tell that to a tetraplegic." I have been accused by some commenters, though, of missing the point of phrases by taking them too literally, or of not understanding the motivation and reasoning behind the things I am taking down. In deference to that, let me say that I recognize the thought behind this quote. It is often taken to mean something along the lines of the great Oscar Wilde line that " Experience is simply the name we give to our mistakes ." It is meant to inspire  an attitude of resilience  and determination. The idea is that with the proper understanding and attitude, a man can stand up to anything at all and still progress in his life. I chose those pronouns for a reason....

My name is Tim, and I’m addicted totime. I’m so freaking impatient I take thestairs instead of the escalator because I can’t stand for 10.5 seconds insilence. I’m not sure what I did with this 10.5 seconds I gained back, but mostlikely I wasted it on one of those messenger apps. While I don’t believe that we shouldwaste time, I do believe we shouldn’t become obsessed with it.  Time is more important than money. It’s theclock that never stops and it will end one day. With that said, we can’t keep beingobsessed with time. This obsession has become a disease for the new breed ofhigh achievers. All this motivational content we can now consume makes us feellike we have to achieve so much more than we really do. Ourreality sabotages us Our life feels like a race becausewe look at what everyone else is doing and then compare it with our ownresults. When I look at my friends I see: – They’re married – They own a house (or two) – They have kids – They have perhaps fou...

NU  Life didn't come with a guidebook! We write it as we go along, and sometimes we fudge it! The more guidelines and wisdom we have, the better we can navigate through the field of material reality to manifest the life of our dreams. For most, many things don't come easily, and some things seem well-nigh impossible. We are always attracting into our lives what we need for our spiritual growth. The game of life requires stealth, wisdom and staying power. Ultimately it is our habits that define our destiny. To develop a soul with stamina requires focus, dedication, and never giving up! What do we need to attract more into our lives of what we want, and what we choose? To make it easier for you, here are ten steps for spiritual attraction: 1. Follow your heart Live a more satisfying life by letting your heart calling guide you. Your heart is tender, kind and guided by meaningful choices. It's much more likely to do the right thing, rather than making a self-s...

What holds you back from getting true love? You’ve probably heard a lot of talk about limiting beliefs and how they hold you back from doing the things you want the most. Most people have a lot of limiting beliefs that affect their career, health, and current relationships negatively. But when it comes to single people who are looking for love, having their lives affected negatively in an understatement. Because our relationships affect every area of our lives, it’s important to get rid of the limiting beliefs that hold us back from finding the perfect person or having a great relationship. I see a lot of common limiting beliefs on Twitter and Facebook. I see them in the comment sections on popular dating blogs. I even hear them from my friends and their friends. And, it seems like they are getting stronger and stronger and making it really hard for single people to find real love. If you are single and want to find real love – the kind that makes you happy for the rest of ...